Thus it happens when you're in the habit of thinking out loud and working out your feelings in public. You wind up deeply offending the people you care about. To that friend, I'm sorry. As requested, I've dropped your name from the blog, I've also dropped some posts, though I've merely anonymised those on which others had taken the time to comment.
You'd have thought I'd have learned this years ago: too much honesty and openess is just asking for people to get hurt and offended. Some things are just better left unspoken.
With appologies to someone I hope will remain a friend.